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Summary
AI-Enhanced Listening Skills Workshop
Dave Ellis facilitated a Falling Awake workshop webinar focused on intelligent listening, building on previous discussions about technology in coaching. He shared updates about his AI coaching tool and demonstrated new technology features like real-time French translation and mood monitoring using his smartwatch. The session began with participants writing about specific areas where they could improve their listening skills, with the goal of enhancing their problem-solving abilities from a meta-view perspective.
Intelligent Listening Techniques
Dave and Bill discussed the importance of intelligent listening, emphasizing the need to focus on the speaker and avoid interrupting with questions. They highlighted the difference between sympathy and empathy, urging listeners to understand the speaker’s emotions without feeling sorry for them. Bill stressed the significance of letting the other person lead the conversation and avoiding novice mistakes, such as bringing up the past. He recommended a 70-30 split for listening time, with the listener speaking no more than 30% of the time.
Active Listening in Coaching
Bill shared his approach to coaching and listening, emphasizing the importance of active listening, encouraging clients to express more, and maintaining confidentiality. He highlighted the need to provide feedback on celebrations, desires, actions, goals, and commitments while encouraging emotion and normalizing challenges. Dave introduced the concept of “intelligent listening squared,” inspired by his wife and Stan Lankowitz, and outlined techniques such as pausing, managing facial expressions, postponing answers, meta-listening, and replacing questions with silence. Both speakers stressed the significance of effective listening in coaching and everyday communication.
Effective Listening in Coaching
Dave led a discussion on coaching techniques, emphasizing the importance of listening over asking questions. Stan shared his experience of using self-coaching techniques, while Norma raised a challenge about coaching a client who gets stuck in old dramas. Dave suggested qualifying suggestions as one of many options and advised Norma to acknowledge when she’s not listening, then redirect the client’s focus to the main coaching topic.
Client Interaction Management Strategies
The group discussed strategies for handling challenging client interactions, with Norma and Dave exploring how to address clients who repeatedly share the same stories or exhibit problematic behavior. Norma proposed acknowledging her disinterest while suggesting constructive next steps, which Dave supported by suggesting a polite but direct approach. The discussion also touched on the importance of active listening and interrupting when necessary, particularly in coaching or therapeutic contexts, with Dave sharing an example of how he handled a potentially unstable individual during a ride. Bill commended Norma’s ability to adapt ideas into her own style, and the session concluded with an open invitation for others to share their insights and discoveries about themselves as listeners.
Enhancing Listening and Communication Skills
The group discussed strategies for effective listening and communication, with Stan sharing his method of coaching himself by setting up two chairs to improve his listening skills. Dave encouraged participants to provide feedback on his webinars through a new system that allows for privacy settings and direct communication with him. Hank reflected on his interactions with his adult child and acknowledged the need to be more empathetic and less judgmental in their conversations, while Norma expressed similar concerns about her relationship with her daughter. The session concluded with participants expressing gratitude for the insights shared and the opportunity to learn from each other.
