Quick recap
The final “Falling Awake” webinar was hosted by Dave Ellis and Bill Rentz. The webinar focused on improving participants’ lives through examining habits and strategies, particularly addressing broken agreements, and introduced new concepts like “Quantum English” and “action coaching.” The session concluded with discussions about agreement-making protocols, coaching methods, and communication strategies, followed by participants sharing personal experiences and challenges related to commitments and relationships.
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Falling Awake Final Webinar
Dave Ellis hosted the final “Falling Awake” webinar on December 18, 2025, with Bill Rentz as co-facilitator. The session focused on improving the quality of participants’ lives through examining their habits and strategies, particularly addressing broken agreements. Dave Ellis announced this would be his last webinar and introduced a new concept called “Quantum English,” though he did not elaborate on the details. The webinar was recorded for future viewing, and Dave Ellis expressed excitement about upcoming developments in his work.
New Coaching and Quantum English
Bill Rentz and Dave Ellis announced new offerings for the upcoming year. Dave Ellis introduced a new coaching approach called “action coaching,” which focuses on speaking actions from the past, present, and future. Dave Ellis also mentioned a set of recommended actions that Dave Ellis has been practicing and finding effective. Bill Rentz and Dave Ellis are planning to teach a course on “quantum English,” which combines elements of computer programming and psychology.
Broken Agreement Management Protocol
Dave Ellis and Bill discussed a protocol for handling broken agreements, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging and addressing them proactively. They outlined four options: keeping the agreement, reporting it when at risk, renegotiating if possible, and rescinding it. Dave Ellis suggested a fifth option of breaking the agreement if necessary, acknowledging that mistakes happen. Bill emphasized the value of reporting broken agreements before they are noticed by others and recommended apologizing for any inconvenience caused. The discussion also touched on the role of language in shaping thinking and the need to minimize blame and shame when addressing broken agreements.
Effective Communication in Agreements
Dave Ellis discussed a coaching method that involves making requests without being upset and emphasized the importance of clear communication in agreements. Dave Ellis introduced an agent that provides summaries of conversations and suggested writing about unkept agreements or questions. Bill Rentz highlighted the significance of defining conditions of satisfaction in agreements, while Stan shared his challenge with keeping agreements with himself. Torie mentioned the need for clarity in agreements and the opportunity to redefine them when misunderstandings occur.
External Accountability and Shared Commitments
Dave Ellis discussed the importance of speaking commitments externally rather than keeping them internally, explaining that making agreements with others creates more accountability. Nancy expressed skepticism about this approach, while Norma shared her perspective that self-commitments can be valuable for self-worth and self-love. Dave Ellis suggested rewriting love songs to focus on “we” rather than “I” to foster a sense of connection and shared identity.
Strategies for Keeping Agreements
The group discussed strategies for making and keeping agreements, with Bill Rentz sharing his challenge of remembering multiple commitments and Dave Ellis suggesting focusing on “planning” rather than “will” to avoid predicting outcomes. Melinda raised a personal issue about household clutter that her husband finds disturbing, and Dave Ellis advised her to stop being reasonable and simply acknowledge that her husband has a personality trait of getting upset about clutter. The conversation ended with participants saying hello to each other as part of a webinar tradition.
